Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Church Retreat
Saturday, November 08, 2008
Armchair Theologian
At first I had the lectionary readings for Dec. 9, then they switched me to Dec. 10. The readings for those days had something in common: they were terrible! Here were all the parts of the Bible that I skip over--a psalm boasting about how wonderful and righteous the author was; another lamenting how terrible his life was and wondering why God hated him so much; Isaiah's great commission, where he's told to make people NOT listen to God; Paul predicting much suffering for those who don't obey God, etc. There was one saving grace--the passage from John about not casting the first stone. That was the obvious choice for what to write about, but I was intrigued by the fact that I really hated all these other passages, and thought one of those would be more interesting to discuss.
So, here you go, a sneak peek at my reflections for Dec. 10:
“Then I heard the voice of Lord saying, “Whom shall I send, and who will go for us?” And I said, “Here I am; send me!” And he said, “Go and say to this people, ‘Keep listening, but do not comprehend, keep looking, but do not understand.’ Make the mind of this people dull, and stop their ears, and shut their eyes, so that they may not look with their eyes, and listen with their ears, and comprehend with their minds, and turn and be healed.” Isaiah 6: 8-10 NRSV
Sometimes understanding the Bible isn’t easy. Sometimes engaging with scripture means being willing leave questions unanswered, and reading parts that seem unfair, antiquated, or that we simply disagree with.
What does this verse mean? God seems to be commanding the prophet Isaiah to turn people away from God. Some commentaries say that while these verses are written as a command, they are actually intended to be a prediction of Israel’s reaction to Isaiah’s difficult task. As a lay person, it’s hard to know what to make of it.
I wonder what Isaiah made of this message. I wonder if his reaction was “I volunteered to be your servant, and now you want me to do WHAT?”. I can remember times in my work life when I wanted to say to my superiors, “You want me to do WHAT?” in response to a seemingly illogical or unreasonable request! And certainly I think all of us had the childhood experience of thinking that our parents were unfair and unreasonable.
Yet we are called to continue on this faith journey in the midst of this uncertainty. The Bible doesn’t always make sense to us; God’s will isn’t always clear. And yet our faith tells us that God is with us and, in the end, God’s will will be done. In this season of Advent, as we deal with the ambiguity of modern life and try to make sense of Jesus’s teachings, let us have the patience and faith of the Israelites, who, expecting a mighty warrior to rebuke their enemies, instead were sent a baby born in a barn to a poor unwed mother, and rejoiced.
BTW, those of you who are actual theologians, is the last sentence correct? Shepherds rejoiced, wise men rejoiced, angels rejoiced, and the Israelites were pretty much clueless at first. But is it fair to think that they rejoiced later on? It sounds kind of poetic the way it is now, but I suppose accuracy is a good thing too...
Wednesday, November 05, 2008
A random update
"I live in a gated community, I don't have to help!" - Ellie
The context, which makes it even better, is that they were playing with the sofa cushions, building things. Ben was pretending he had been crushed by a house falling, and was underneath a cushion shouting "Help! Help!". Don't ask me where she got it, but she clearly had the attitude down. We'll need to work on that.
For the record, we live in a gated community, but the gate is only closed between midnight and 5 am or so.
In other news, we watched the elections last night. I wasn't expecting Jen to be home, since she had this embassy election event she was supposed to be at, so the kids and I ordered pizza and watched CNN until around 8pm local time, when the first polls closed. They had a great time. Best quote from the evening:
"For my birthday, I want to invite John McCain and Barack Obama." -- Ben
This came right after he asked if they were real, since so many things on TV aren't. I assured him they are real, and as Jen pointed out when she came home they should know that, since she herself has been on TV. In any event, I'll need to get some e-mail addresses for the invitations.
I've been getting myself into trouble, brewing beer and committing to writing a novel during the month of November. The beer has gone well, I have a friend here who I am teaching through practice. She (Amie) is also the person who has gotten me into the novel during November thing, which you may have heard of before, National Novel Writing Month, or NaNoWriMo. You can follow my progress, should you so desire, at the web site. As of this morning I've written 10,423 words, giving me a good cushion as the pace I need to maintain would put me at 8,333 words by the end of the day. It is fun, and hasn't really been negatively impacting my schedule yet. I've even gotten up at 5:30 two mornings so I could get some writing in before the kids get up. Shocking, huh?
Jen is in what I'll call "CODEL Hell" right now. She has a huge group of congressional folks, including staffers and spouses, arriving on Sunday. She's in charge of the visit, and has been having an interesting time getting everything put together. Let's just say that staffers aren't always the easiest folks to work with, and sometimes people fail to see that they are not actually the most important person in the world. So if you get no response from her for a while, now you know why. She's probably passed out on the sofa after a long stressful day at work.
Finally, we have been continuing the struggle with Ellie's school options. Today we had a meeting with one more school, which is lovely, the only problem being that it is almost all taught in English. They do have Spanish instruction, and often speak Spanish on the playground, but no doubt the kids would have more trouble making it to native level speaking there. Not the end of the world, of course. St. George's, the other school we are still in the running for, has no spots open, although we've got some good folks working on that issue for us. Time will tell.
That's all for now. I've been instructed that I need to play "John, Jack and the Bad Guy", a game in which I (the Bad Guy) need to infiltrate a gated community. John and Jack are protecting it, and have the keys to the gates. Should be interesting.
Saturday, October 04, 2008
My wife is awesome
Tuesday, September 30, 2008
Machu Picchu Trip











Sunday, September 28, 2008
Spande Spanglish
Sometimes, they ask excellent questions that show not only that they are understanding Spanish but thinking intelligently (or at least age-appropriately) about it.
For example:
--Ellie asked me the other day, "Why do people here use the letter C to say yes?"
--We had a great time at dinner tonight playing a game we made up called "Donde esta?" where asked the kids where various parts of their body were. Ellie knew a lot more than Ben, but we knew that they were both following and enjoying it when Ben said "Uno, dos, trasero!!" (one, two, butt!) and laughed uproariously. They say humor doesn't translate across languages, but I guess it does when you're three!
Sunday, September 21, 2008
Unpack Fest 2008
The big challenge for us has been trying to unpack while also entertaining the kids. Last weekend we hired some sitters. This weekend, as it is a long holiday weekend in Chile, everyone seemed to be away so we were more on our own. I decided to enlist the kids' help in unpacking, which went pretty much as you would expect...
At first the kids were very happy to use plastic cups to move the styrofoam peanuts to a garbage bag so we could reuse them as packing material later...
Then Ben decided it was really more fun to dump the peanuts on the table...
Then came the big discovery...it is so much more fun in the boxes than outside of them! Here Ben is pretending to be a "water monkey" in a tank of water at a zoo, "peeling" the water. I played a variety of zoo visitors who were amazed to discover that the water monkey could speak to them! That provided at least 30 minutes of entertainment...
By which point Ellie had discovered that packing paper was fun, too...Wednesday, September 10, 2008
Three Cheers for Liz
Liz has been a huge hit with the kids. In fact, just this morning as we were eating breakfast and talking about how Liz would be leaving soon, Ben said: "Next time let's invite her for an even bigger playdate so she can stay much more longer!"
Photos of our trip and travel tips to Machu Picchu to come in the next few days (we hope).
Saturday, August 30, 2008
A Lazy Saturday Being Inspired
I, of course, have a long list of things I still think we need to do pretty quickly, but Nathan, being the Type B voice in our house and, at least in this case, the voice of reason, convinced me that we needed to not make any plans for today and instead just relax, run a few errands, and get ready for Liz's arrival tomorrow (yeah!).
So, we had a lovely time this morning catching up on current events by watching the Democratic convention speeches over the internet with the kids. The kids were surprisingly interested and paid reasonably close attention. Ellie picked out the part of Hillary's speech where she mentioned Harriet Tubman and excitedly pointed out that we have a book about Harriet Tubman. I was proud to talk to the kids about how decades again people thought that women and blacks weren't as smart as white men, but today they can be important leaders.
Normal Life: Playdate with Asher
Ellie and Asher had a great time playing musical instruments--including an unusual xylophone/drum thingy I got in Namibia or South Africa, and an impromptu drum Asher made out of a plastic bucket and shovels.
Then Ellie, displaying that leadership (or is domination?) eldests are known for, declared that they should all pretend to be brothers who were cowboys. Here are Ellie and Asher wearing their "cowboy hats" and "masks".
Where was Ben in all this? Well, he did go along--a little--with the cowboy theme, but he's decided that he really doesn't like to be in photos, so here is hiding from us.
More and more Nathan and I are noticing the kids' distinctive personalities. Ellie is the family extrovert who came home with four best friends her first day of preschool. (Whether they knew they were her best friends is a different story.) Ben does fine playing with other kids, but often prefers time by himself or playing in parallel with other kids rather than playing with them. Recently he's really gotten in to very elaborate and creative Lego creations, using unusual pieces in ways that his dad (himself a Lego expert) never imagined. We coaxed Ben into posing for a picture with a new Lego car that he was very proud of.Friday, August 15, 2008
Spande Children Deny Torture Allegations

However, Ben Spande, 3, and his sister, Elena, 4, defend their actions and appear to even express pride in them. Ben stated, "Elmo is pretending to be SuperElmo. He's upside down because he is flying. He's wearing a mask because he's a superhero." Ben declined to comment on allegations that the photographs show Elmo in the act of crying for help.

For her part, Elena Spande claimed responsibility for the suspension of four individuals but denied that she had any malevolent intent, saying, "They are all on a ride at the fair. The one laying on the counter is too scared to go. And the string is to help them in case they fall."
Child psychologists are puzzled by several elements of the case, noting that Elena Spande appears in the photos for both incidents, despite her brother claiming credit for the Elmo suspension. They also note that Elena appears to be grimacing in the photo with the four suspended playmates. Sigmoid Freund stated, "In this case, the older child seems to be claiming credit for her brother's work. This is a common behavior among disturbed older children who are used to being the smartest and most advanced children in their families. Her grimace in the second photograph may indicate that she is beginning to be capable of some moral reasoning and may be feeling remorse for her actions." When asked about these observations, Jennifer Spande, mother of the "preschool torturers", said, "Remorse shmorse. Ben is just going through a phase where he doesn't want to be in photos, but Ellie is a total ham. And yeah, sometimes her photo smile does look like a grimace, doesn't it?"
Hallelujah! Spandes Join the Modern World
I guess one of the consequences of living in a developed country like Chile is that everything is online here. Movie listings, yellow pages, point to point directions and maps--it's incredible how wired this country is. I read somewhere that 87% of Chilean have internet access. Amazing! Is that higher than in the US?
Our efforts at settling in here have been very much stymied by lack of internet access at home. Information about schools (the little that is available publicly), adds for nanas, used car inventories, etc--everything is online. Thank goodness that after 6 weeks in country we finally have internet at home! Yeah! The wi-fi doesn't reach as far as the dining room table, where someone likes to eat her breakfast while reading the NY Times, but we'll fix that later. Now we are just so happy to be connected!
Sunday, August 03, 2008
Jen's trip to Congress
Here are a few photos of the trip to Congress:
Meeting Senate President Adolfo Zaldivar
Pol/Econ Counselor Juan Alsace (my boss), Ambassador Paul Simons, Congress professional staffer Julio Camara, and meSunday, July 20, 2008
Mountains and Wild and Wacky Ellie

The kids seem to be excited about learning Spanish, which is great since they'll start in a Spanish-only Kindergarten tomorrow. Here they are reading along with a Berlitz CD reading a story in Spanish:

Meanwhile, they continue to be wild, wacky, and fun (at least most of the time). Here are a couple of photos we snapped this week of Ellie being silly: first wearing her version of a five year old onesie--Ben's shirt tucked in to Ben's underwear, and then goofing off with the vacuum cleaner attachments and gloves on her feet.

Developed World Problems in Chile
Our first few days I kept noticing the graffiti that I saw around time. I never saw graffiti in Cambodia--people didn't have money to waste on spray paint.
Chile has its homeless population just like Cambodia does, but in Chile, they look more like homeless in the US--wearing lots of clothes to stay warm outside, carrying all their possessions with them. In Cambodia, the very poor simply didn't have possessions, and homelessness wasn't uncommon. Many cyclo drivers, for example, simply sleep on the streets in their cyclos.
Thinking about the national political issues here is also illuminating. People are upset because--after many years of admirably low rates--inflation has reached double digits. Pollution (In the winter, Santiago has a brown cloud similar to Denver's) and traffic are considered to be major issues. And the big scandal of Bachelet's term as President was that her public transportation inititiave was unpopular. After Cambodia--where the big issues are big league corruption, selling girls for sex, and trying the Khmer Rouge--this all seems laughably minor.
Military Standoff at the Thai-Cambodian Border
Our Ambassador often used to say that having the ancient temple of Preah Vihear, located in Cambodia right on the northern border with Thailand, inscribed on UNESCO's World Heritage list was Cambodia's top foreign policy priority. Getting a set of ruins on a temple didn't seem like a big deal to us, but it was a huge issue of honor, pride, and potential tourist dollars for Cambodia.
Cambodia succeeded in getting Preah Vihear added a few weeks ago, but their success has angered Thailand, which says that part of the greater temple territory is in Thai territory, and wanted to have a joint listing. Now, in response to pressure from a group called the People's Alliance for Democracy, Thailand has sent troops to the border, and Cambodia has responded by sending its own troops.
Cambodia: Little hope for Thai talks
By SOPHENG CHEANG – 13 hours ago
PREAH VIHEAR, Cambodia (AP) — Cambodia has informed the U.N. Security Council that Thai forces have violated its territory near an ancient World Heritage Site temple where hundreds of troops continued to face off Sunday.
Cambodia's permanent mission in New York submitted a letter to the chairman of the Security Council and the chairman of the General Assembly to "draw their attention to the current situation on the Cambodian-Thai border," Information Minister Khieu Kanharith said.
"Cambodia is not asking for U.N. intervention. We still stick to Prime Minister Hun Sen's instructions to try to solve the problem peacefully between the two sides," the minister told reporters in the Cambodian capital, Phnom Penh.
It was unclear when the letter was submitted.
The conflict over territory surrounding Preah Vihear temple escalated when UNESCO recently approved Cambodia's application to have the complex named a World Heritage Site. Thai activists fear the new status will undermine Thailand's claim to nearby land since the border has never been demarcated.
Troops from the opposing forces were on the brink of a shoot-out Thursday night, which was avoided when Cambodians retreated from a site occupied by the Thais.
Opposing commanders and their troops have tried to defuse tensions, sometimes even sharing meals, snapping photographs and sleeping within easy sight of one another.
A Cambodian general, meanwhile, said he had little hope that upcoming talks between his government and Thailand will resolve the tense border dispute.
Cambodian Brig. Gen. Chea Keo said Thai troops have deployed an artillery piece about half a mile northeast of Preah Vihear temple — the latest escalation ahead of Monday's meeting aimed at averting a military confrontation.
"Regarding the talks tomorrow, we have little hope about the outcome," Chea Keo said.
He said the reason for his pessimism stems from a recent counterclaim by Thai Prime Minister Samak Sundaravej that the area around a Buddhist pagoda near the historic temple belongs to Thailand. Thai troops have been stationed at the pagoda since Tuesday.
Hun Sen wrote a letter to Samak on Thursday saying relations had been "worsening" since Thai troops "encroached on our territory," and asked him to pull them back.
Responding to his Cambodian counterpart, Samak said the area around the pagoda referred to in the letter "is within the Thai territory," according to a statement Saturday from the Thai Ministry of Foreign Affairs.
While urging both sides to exercise restraint, Samak's letter said the settlement of Cambodians in that area constitutes "a continued violation of Thailand's sovereignty and territorial integrity."
Despite their pledge to hold talks Monday in Thailand to try to defuse the tensions, both Cambodia and Thailand have massed troops at the site.
"We continue to be on alert at all time. And at the same time, we keep instructing our soldiers to be patient and avoid being blamed for starting a war," Chea Keo said Sunday.
The dispute has taken a toll on tourism in the area, with the Thai side closed to visitors. It also is starting to hurt economic relations between the two neighbors.
Associated Press writers Ambika Ahuja in Bangkok, Thailand, and Ker Munthit in Phnom Penh, Cambodia, contributed to this report.
Saturday, July 05, 2008
Bienvenidos a Chile!
We packed our home leave with tons of visits to family and friends, so we didn't get a chance to do as much blogging as we had hoped. We'll try to catch up on posting photos from that soon. In the meantime, here are some pics from our first few days in Chile.
Here's the view from our apartment. Our permanent housing--a house in the 'burbs--won't be ready for a month, so we are staying in a nice apartment downtown (in the Las Condes neighborhood) about a 15 minute walk from the embassy. You can see how modern Santiago is with all the big buildings surrounding the little Catholic church.
The kids are enjoying the cold. To Nathan and me, this feels less like winter and more like fall, with daytime temps in the 40s to 60s.
In our first few days here, Nathan and the kids found two great playgrounds within walking distance of our apartment--that's two more nice playgrounds than there were in all of Cambodia for most of our time there.
Ambassador Paul Simons and Deputy Chief of Mission (ie #2 at the embassy) Carol Urban watch the flag raising ceremony at the embassy on July 4.
A Chilean military band played American patriotic songs at the flag raising.Tuesday, May 20, 2008
Home Leave 2008 Round One
Although plans are still a bit unsettled, we are officially back in the US, and are loving it. The jet lag is starting to wane, we hope, although we are all certainly a bit off our normal schedules. This morning I was partially awake at 3:30, and managed to doze on and off until 5:30, when I got up. As I write this we are in Northfield with Jess, Andy and Simon, so of course Andy was long since up. Simon was sleeping, but we chatted a while, and then when Simon woke up, we played with him until his morning nap time, at which point Jen and the kids were starting to stir. In any event, clearly if I am an early bird and Jen sleeps in, we are not in our normal sleep schedules.
But I'm getting ahead of myself. Round One of home leave 2008 took us to Wisconsin, where we arrived sleepy but happy after an entirely routine set of flights. Not great, but no flight from Cambodia to Madison ever was, I suspect. John and Phyllis were waiting for us with two cars, so we were able to load all of our luggage up and get back to their house.
Rather than describing the rest, I'll show off some of the work of our lovely new Canon S5 IS camera.
We started off our visit with a round of letterboxing in Owen Park,or a temperate forest, as Ben and Ellie would call it.
The walk there and back had many sticks and flowers, which delighted the kidsand adults alike. Ellie was particularly happy to have the weather
cold enough to actually warrant a long sleeved shirt.
We also took advantage of familial photographic skills to get thefirst of what will no doubt be many family photos.
The kids enjoyed going on John's nightly inspection of the grounds.They are exhibiting a fondness for the outdoors that is making us very
excited for a place where the outdoors is actually inviting!
We spent a bit of time in Appleton with great-grandpa Howard and great-grandma Carole.We started this time planting flowers at the graves of many relatives from both sides of their families.
This was actually in Manitowoc, WI, where I think they must be related to nearly
the entire city in one way or another!
Ben was excited to be there, and of course did what all young children do in cemeteries.
We then went to Appleton and helped Howard plant his front garden. Ben liked the digging part.
All of us really got into it, in fact. Jen also helped plant when she wasn't photographing.
And what planting session would be complete without some watering?
The next day we took all four generations letterboxing, which Howard really got into!
The kids saw their first white-tailed deer while out in the woods.
We even found two boxes, although sadly after Carole had gotten too tired andwent to rest in the car. We all had a blast, enjoying the outdoors and each other.
And because I just can't resist, here's a shot of our kids giving some cousinly love to Simon.More shots like this will follow, I'm sure, but you'll have to wait until the official Round Two
entry, coming straight from Minnesota!














